Misc

Live Wire Muse

My friend Latrice sent me a link to an article on Medium titled: You’re Probably a Micro Cheater, and That’s Okay.  I read it. I’m not, I wrote back. It says it’s about lying and complaining and also stalking and I’m not. Well, maybe a little light internet stalking. Wait, do you think I’m giving bisexuals a bad name? Doesn’t this mean you’re pan, not bi? Pan is bi.  They showed up again at my workplace. Because, well, that’s their job. I never knew someone without an outsized ego would be interested in so much attention. So the attention is…

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Healthy Power Exchange

I hesitate to call it power because it felt so absolutely different than these types of exchanges I’ve had in the past. First, the furtive longing, then the pleading to quiet it, or let it be something more. This wasn’t that. I asked my husband for clearance to flirt with my work crush. “You want to flirt?” he asked. He thought it was probably something I could do without asking. “Isn’t that something you could just do on your own, without me? As long as it didn’t get too serious?” I mean, yeah. I could. But there was something about…

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Love Game Table

My friend Paige brought an exercise to writing group that I absolutely loved. She and her family used to play Snake Oil, and what you do is you draw three cards and then try to make a product out of whatever cards you drew. I pulled Love, Game, and Table. Here is my pitch, which I wrote two minutes ago: Have you ever had an argument with your wife, partner, lover and didn’t want to go to bed angry because you heard on Family Ties that it was a terrible thing to go to bed angry? With H.D. Radke’s Love…

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Manic Panic

I have always had a sense of underlying mania that has informed everything I do. I think there’s even a mania in my boredom. It has changed a lot since I have started taking ADHD meds, but what it seems like to me is sustainable, less electric mania. So probably it’s just how normal people feel when they can focus on something. The principal at my child’s school said, “Your energy is astounding.” I’ve been told by many many people that my writing is quick, fast, frank. I have been told upon first meeting someone: “You’re alert, like a bird.”…

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It’s Not a Call-out, It’s a Call-in

I wrote a tinyletter investigating white authors on whiteness: I search for white writers who have written articles about whiteness in the last four years. I find: Robin D’Angelo. Debbie Irving. Tim Wise. Nell Irvin Painter. Aside from Eula Biss, all of these writers write exclusively about race, and in particular, whiteness. Robin D’Angelo is a professor at University of Washington whose area of research (listed on her website) is Whiteness Studies. I believe her work is useful and important, from an analysis perspective. However, these white authors write mainly about what white people should be doing. I’m not saying that’s wrong, but when…

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Racial Healing Circles

I wrote a tinyletter about a Racial Healing Circle I attended last summer. I asked everyone involved in the story if I could have their blessing in sharing it. I am so honored that they allowed me to do so. For more information about Truth, Racial Healing, and Transformation, please go to www.healourcommunities.com. Please visit the website and support the work of Fatima Mann in Austin. She is an amazing force for equity in Austin, and elsewhere. Find her on Twitter @BarefootEmprss ‏  

The Conscience of White Identity

I recently started a tinyletter at my cousin Bonnie’s suggestion. She used to keep reminding me that she was my cousin-in-law, but since she’s been in the family for over twenty years and she’s one of my favorite people, she’s family, whether she likes it or not, so I dropped the in-law thing a long time ago. Her suggestion to start a tinyletter was just from a communication standpoint, she said she missed me on social media (I dropped almost all social media a couple of years ago) and wanted to know what was going on with me. After researching…

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Overdiagnosed as Over-the-Top

“She’s so extra.” I first heard this term last year. My friend John’s wife said it about someone we both knew. She’s a woman of color and works at a high school. She also has a son in middle school, so she is probably more up-to-date than most people when it comes to slang. I absolutely love slang. It’s just so damn creative. When I hear a new word or phrase that really nails it, I have a strong urge to incorporate it into my vocabulary right away. Extra means–according to the best urban dictionary definition– “doing the absolute damn…

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The Concerta Diaries

Dang, my writing has exploded since I started taking medication. I can’t tell if it’s causal in an energy way or if it’s coinciding with me having the focus to write more.  I feel like this phenomenon was embedded in the blog culture back in the day as well, Ambien and Adderall-driven, hyper-detailed logs of one’s day. Then maybe everybody got really embarrassed. I remember I used to re-read my diaries when I was younger and I’d shred them, wanting to erase this younger self. A few years ago a friend of mine I was visiting at her home, also…

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One Point Away From Gifted

Being on the other side of the evaluation was new for me. As a speech language pathologist, I had administered standardized tests hundreds of times, to children and adults. My primary feeling really was curiosity about the evaluation for ADHD, not just about the diagnosis but also in terms of how it would feel to be on the other side, the non-expert? Here’s how it felt. When it wasn’t boring or mildly interesting, it was stressful. So, basically like I imagined. It was a three-hour process, tests administered by a neuropsychologist, and the results would be available immediately after the…

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